Workplace romance is nothing new—after all, many people spend more time at the office than anywhere else. When connections form naturally between colleagues, relationships can develop. But dating someone at work comes with unique challenges and risks that employees should carefully consider.
If you’re thinking about—or are already in—a workplace relationship, here’s a practical guide to navigating it with professionalism and care.
1. Know the Company Policy
Before pursuing a workplace relationship, the most important step is understanding your company’s rules. Many organizations have specific policies about employee relationships, especially if they involve a supervisor-subordinate dynamic. Some may require disclosure to HR, while others may prohibit them altogether. Violating the policy—even unintentionally—could put your job at risk.
Tip: Check the employee handbook or ask HR for clarification. It’s better to be informed than surprised.
2. Avoid Power Imbalances
Relationships involving a manager and a direct report are especially risky. They can raise concerns about favoritism, conflicts of interest, and even lead to legal issues, such as harassment claims or coercion allegations. Even if the relationship is mutual, the appearance of impropriety can damage both careers.
Tip: If a power imbalance exists, consider requesting a transfer or finding a way to minimize conflicts of interest. Transparency is key.
3. Maintain Professionalism at Work
Keep romantic interactions out of the workplace. Flirting, PDA, and personal disputes can make coworkers uncomfortable and affect team morale. The goal is to maintain a professional image and ensure your relationship doesn’t become a distraction.
Tip: Save personal conversations for after work, and avoid texting or messaging during business hours unless it’s strictly work-related.
4. Communicate and Set Boundaries
Discuss expectations and boundaries early in the relationship. What happens if you break up? How will you handle disagreements? Setting ground rules can help both partners maintain respect and professionalism, regardless of how the relationship evolves.
Tip: Plan for all outcomes, including a breakup. Be honest with each other about how you’ll handle it in the workplace.
5. Prepare for Gossip—and Be Discreet
Office relationships often become the subject of gossip, even if you try to keep them private. Be prepared for that possibility and stay focused on your work. If you decide to share your relationship status with coworkers, keep it simple and professional.
Tip: Let HR know if you feel harassed or uncomfortable due to workplace rumors or comments.
6. What to Do if Things Go South
Breakups are hard enough—but breaking up with someone you see every day can be especially painful. If the relationship ends, it’s crucial to stay respectful and civil. Avoid venting at work or involving colleagues in the fallout.
Tip: Seek support outside of work. If needed, talk to a manager or HR about options like changing teams or schedules to help manage the situation.
Final Thoughts
Workplace romance isn’t inherently bad—it can even lead to lasting relationships or marriage—but it does require maturity, self-awareness, and a willingness to respect both your partner and your workplace. By approaching it thoughtfully, you can protect your career and your heart.
If you have questions about your rights as an employee or experience harassment or retaliation related to a workplace relationship, consult an employment attorney or visit Workplace Fairness for more resources.
